I purchased your programs, Mack Tactics and the Bad Boy Blue Print, and both are fantastic. They're packed with powerful conversational tricks and tips. (I found the
"Conversation Control" and "Negotiations" chapters to be especially helpful.)To be very frank with you, I was basically an introvert, and after learning your material I have a new understanding of
what Attraction is and how it works. I have started making new "alliances," as you explain how to do, and I'm approaching more women and expanding my Comfort Zone.
But in this process of development I have a question for you. I am still unable to get the bigger picture of life. I am not getting the "feel" of being a Mack (or an "Alpha Man," as you
put it). Simply put, I understand how to talk to women now…but how can I feel like I can "back it up?"
I want strong Inner game because only that will lead to success in the long run. Do help me
out in this regard.
Thanks for everything, - Richard
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Dean Cortez replies:
Richard, you hit the nail on the head when you referred to this as a "process of development."
It is an ongoing mission. There are no magic solutions that are going to transform you into a cocky, confident, smooth "ladies' man" overnight.
The same way that when you decide to get in better physical shape, you're not going to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his prime after three workout sessions in your basement.
The most important thing M.A.C.K. Tactics does is give you a rock-solid FOUNDATION so that you can start meeting more women and dating them with more style, originality, and confidence.
So your question, basically, is how can you start feeling more confident. I want to talk to you about this for a moment.
There are a lot of corny books full of dating advice, and they all basically say the same thing: "Be confident." "Women love confident men." Blah blah…
Duh! That's completely OBVIOUS. But how do you actually BECOME more confident around women, and stop feeling shy and anxious?
It's like telling a short guy, "Be taller. Then you'll get more women."
Or telling a skinny guy, "Be a big, muscular hunk. That's the secret."
Uh, yeah, OK…but how the heck is that realistically possible?!
Here's how it works. CONFIDENCE IS BUILT THROUGH SUCCESS, AND SUCCESS IS BUILT THROUGH SKILL.
It's a three-step process:
1. Learn the tactics and skills you need to talk to women.
2. As a result, you start being more successful with women.
3. The more success you enjoy, the more confident you become.
As you start getting better with women, your confidence level rises. You start to realize that approaching beautiful women, and dating two or three girls at the same time, is NOT
impossible. It's not this scary, painful thing. It's actually a lot of fun!
But you've got to learn to walk before you run. I want you to build up your confidence in small
increments. If you only measure "success" by how many beautiful women you sleep with, you're going to keep feeling frustrated and disappointed in yourself.
So over the next week, I want you to make this a goal: you're going to meet three new women and get their email addresses.
NOT their phone numbers. Just get their email!
AND, you're not going to try to "trap" girls into talking to your for 20 or 30 minutes.
YOU will be the one to end the conversation first!
See, the average guy thinks a conversation is a "success" if he can keep the girl talking for a long period of time. He'll meet a girl at a bar and tell her his entire life story in the first
half-hour! As long as she isn't blowing him off, he thinks that he's making progress.
Actually, she's probably getting awfully BORED of this guy, but she's too polite to walk away…
I want you to take the opposite approach. I want you to go into the conversation KNOWING that you're only going to spend 5 minutes talking to her. Then, you're going to get her email
address, move on, and contact her the next day.
Talk to girls using the techniques laid out in the M.A.C.K. Tactics book, and after 5 minutes,
tell her, "Well it was nice meeting you, I can tell we've got some things to talk about. (Or, "I can tell we've got some things in common.") I have to go now…hey, do you have email?"
Notice how I phrased it. (PHRASING – choosing your words strategically – is a big part of being successful with women, and it's all explained in the M.A.C.K. Tactics book.)
I didn't say, "Can I get your email address?"
I didn't say, "Do you mind if I email you sometime?"
Instead, I said: "Do you have email?"
Of course she has email! Everyone does. She'll say "yes," and now you're going to take our your little notebook and pen (a Mack always carries these items) and hand them to her. Say, "write it down for me."
See, when you ask a girl for PERMISSION, this gives her the opportunity to say "no."
If you ask her, "Can I get your phone number?", she might think of the NEGATIVE
possibilities. (Maybe this guy is going to call me all the time and annoy me…)
But when you simply say to her, "Do you have email?", and give her the paper and pen, she
probably won't think twice about it. She'll write down her email address, and then you'll go on your way, and contact her tomorrow. Are you with me?
Do this two or three times over the next week, and I guarantee you are going to feel a confidence boost like you haven't felt in a LONG time.
If you go to bars or clubs, don't take an "all or nothing" view: "I've got to hook up with a girl TONIGHT, or else this is a waste of time and I suck."
For now, I want you to enjoy a few short, fun conversations with women using your Mack Tactics…no pressure, no big expectations…and go home with some email addresses. You can turn those into dates.
And in the meantime, you are REPROGRAMMING yourself for success.
In the past, when you were talking to an attractive girl, you were probably thinking "where do I
take it from here? What should I talk to her about next? How do I avoid being boring and lame?"
NOW you're thinking, "I'm only going to give this girl five minutes of my time, and I'll contact
her on email tomorrow if I decide I want to take it further. I do this all the time, and it's no big deal."
Start having lots of these "mini-conversations" in which YOU are the busy guy who needs to
go. Leave her wanting to know more. I think you'll very pleased with the results, and how they make you feel.
As Always….Go Tactical!
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Hey Dean, 
